What Should I Put on a Funeral Thank You Card

Leah

Sending a thank you card to funeral guests is a really great way to show your gratitude. But it can feel tricky knowing what to write.

To help you out, we've created this guide to funeral thank you card wording and etiquette.

Funeral Thank You Card Etiquette

When planning a funeral, thank you cards may be the last thing on your mind, and you are not obliged to send them. However, if you do decide to send thank you cards, there are some basic etiquette rules to follow.

If someone kindly contributed financially towards the wedding, it is considered good etiquette to thank them for this. However, you should not include the amount that they gave, as this can be seen as rude.

You should also acknowledge other types of support that friends and family have provided. Anything from helping with funeral planning, sorting out your funeral stationery, or just being extra considerate during this tough time. Use a thank you card to show them how much you appreciate all that they have done.

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You may also want to consider your time frame when sending out thank you cards. Around 2-4 weeks after the funeral is the usual time that people send cards. Don't worry if it takes you longer, your loved ones will understand that this can be a difficult task.

Before you send out your cards, you can also get prepared. Perhaps write up a list of everyone who helped out with the funeral, so that you don't forget to give them an extra big 'thank you'. You may also want to write down all of your guests' addresses as this will make sending your cards so much easier.

Don't forget to also make the most out of any friends and family willing to help out. You don't have to face this task on your own.

Funeral Thank You Card Wording

Once you've sorted out your etiquette, it's time to consider what you really want to say.

Make sure to specifically mention any gift or donation that your guest gave as this will make your thank you cards less generic and more thoughtful.

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How to say 'Thank You' for...

Flowers

Thank you so much for the lovely flowers.
Thank you for the beautiful arrangement of flowers you sent for service. They were so pretty, and brightened up a difficult day.
As you know, roses were favourite flowers! Receiving your heartfelt note and flowers was amazing.

A Gift

Thank you so much for your kind and heartfelt gift.
I’m writing to thank you for the gift that you sent. Planning service has been difficult, and your gift put a smile on my face!

Money

Thank you for your gift of money.
Thank you so much for contributing a gift of money after passing. Thanks to your generosity, we were able to pay for the funeral in full.
Thank you for your gift of money after funeral. We are using this money to get our lives back on track, and are so grateful for your help.

Charity Donation

Thank you for your thoughtful charity donation!
Thank you so much for your donation to . As you know, suffered from for years before their passing, and this was the perfect gift in their memory.
was favourite organisation! They would be so happy to know that you donated in their memory. Thank you!

Food

Thank you for attending funeral and bringing food afterwards. This was so thoughtful and brought me so much comfort, knowing you were there.
Thank you so much for bringing such delicious food for after funeral! Your generosity in bringing food for the guests helped my family get through the most difficult time. It was so lovely to not have to worry about feeding all of those people who visited our house over the next few days.

Emotional Support

I am grateful for your support during this difficult time.
Thank you for your support when passed away. Your comforting words meant a lot to me.
I appreciate the support that you showed me when passed away. You’ve always been such a thoughtful person and I’m glad that you are a part of my life.

Sign Off

With love,
Love from,
Kind regards,
Best regards,
Sincerely,

Make sure to sign the card with your full name. Including your last name will remove any confusion, especially if the last name of the deceased is different to yours.