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What Is the Difference Between a Funeral and a Memorial Service?
A funeral service and memorial service both have several qualities that make them unique. In this blog, we will explain how these services differ.
Similarities
Both services honour the life of the deceased. The services also help the loved ones, friends, and relatives get closure, which helps them grieve. Everyone can come together and share their memories. Funerals and memorials feature speeches, music, and pictures that celebrate the life of the individual.
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Differences
One of the main differences is that a funeral involves the body being present. The funeral ceremony will let everyone to show their respects before the body is buried. This means that funerals occur as soon as possible after the individual passes away. A memorial service can be held at any time, because it does not involve the burial of the body. Instead, the service allows friends and relatives to remember the departed. They are usually held at least a few days after the funeral, as this is considered respectful to the body. Memorial services let the family make a lovely tribute to the deceased, since there is more time to plan. They also allow people who live far away a chance to pay their respects, even if they couldn't attend the funeral.
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Memorial services often involve preference rather then tradition. The location for a funeral and a memorial can also differ. Churches or religious centres are the traditional settings for funerals. But you can hold a memorial service anywhere. It could be a place they loved, such as a park or beach. They can also be conducted in a loved one’s home, which allows it to be as public or private as you want.
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A funeral dress code will traditionally feature dark colours and no patterns. However, a memorial service dress code is up to the organisers' choice. You can link it to the individual who passed away. For example, the theme could be their favourite colour. It might also simply be 'colourful' to create a happy look.
What Do You Put on a Funeral Program?
What to include on a Funeral Program
There are a few important things to include on your funeral program. Front Page The front of your funeral program will include the key details:- Your loved one's full name, as well as their maiden name
- Their dates of birth and death
- Time, place and date of funeral
- A special poem or reading
- Short biography of the deceased
- Names of family members
- Service outline
- Name of Soloist
- Name and role of the person delivering the service
- A thank you for sharing this day with the family
- An invitation to the reception
How to create a Funeral Program
Creating a lovely funeral program with Dotty about Paper is so easy! Here are our simple steps. Find your ideal design First, take a look at our funeral programs to find a design that suits your loved one. Featured Product: Funeral Order of Service - Celtic Border We have a wide range of designs to suit anyone. So whether they loved fishing, music, or religion, you can really find a design to match their personality. Add your wording Next, type your wording into the text boxes. We have a separate box for each section of your program, making it super easy to complete. You will want to have prepared your wording in advance as it can take a while to get it just right. Then upload your photograph, making sure it's high quality. Order Then you're ready to order. Decide how many you would like, and add to basket. Place your order, and within one working day, we’ll provide an email proof for your approval. Delivery Once you have approved your email proof, your order will be printed and dispatched. If you need your order urgently, contact us and we will do our very best to help. Featured Product: Funeral Order of Service - Pink Peony We hope you have found this blog useful. If you would like some help creating your funeral program, be sure to get in touch. We are more than happy to help!How Do You Personalise a Funeral Bookmark?
Image
On your funeral bookmark, you'll want to put a beautiful image of your loved one. Whether that's a photograph of them years ago or a picture not long before they passed away, it's completely up to you. Choose something that makes you happy to see. Featured Product: Funeral Bookmark - Forget Me Not Bouquet Your photograph will be the main focal point of the funeral bookmark so be sure to choose something that you will look fondly upon and that is full of happy memories.Wording
For your wording, you can write whatever you like. Normally people will write a short message to their loved ones, write about their life, or put a special poem. A poem is the more popular choice, as it is very beautiful and sentimental, too. You may wish to use a poem that is being read at the funeral. Featured Product: Funeral Bookmark - Girls Traditional Photo Above your poem, you will want a couple of lines of text that read the name of your loved one, as well as their date of birth and date of death. You may also want to title the bookmark with some wording to say 'In Loving Memory Of'.Design
Make sure you choose a design that suits your loved one, whether that's a simple design, or something outgoing. Featured Product: Funeral Bookmark - Fishing Here at Dotty about Paper, we have a wide range of lovely designs, from pretty red roses to fishing, as well as beautiful religious designs. It's easy to find something that they would have loved. We also have a selection of poems that you can choose from - or you can add something completely unique. We hope this blog has helped you personalise your funeral bookmarks. For more help and advice on funeral stationery, be sure to check out our other funeral blogs.What Is a Memorial Card?
What do you put on a memorial card?
Memorial cards don't need a lot of details on. Usually, we recommend that the front of the card contains the name of the person who died, the date of when they were born and when they died, and a lovely photograph. On the reverse, you may like to add a quote, poem, or song lyrics to remember your loved one by. A poem that will be read at the funeral is also a good idea. Featured Product: Funeral Memorial Cards - Celtic Border You can personalise your cards however you want - add your own photos and wording to complete. It's a great way to remember your loved one's personality, whether they were outgoing, creative, or funny. Featured Product: Funeral Memorial Cards - Pink Peony Here at Dotty about Paper, we have a wide range of memorial cards with many different designs available. Our cards are easy to personalise; you can choose from eight different poems or add your own wording. If you have any questions about your funeral stationery, feel free to get in touch. We will be happy to help.What Is the Order of Service for a Funeral?
The Front Cover
The front cover of your order of service will usually be simple. You can choose from a range of different designs to find something to suit your loved one. Featured Product: Funeral Order of Service - Red Rose Scroll The front cover would usually include: • A photo of the deceased • Their full name • Their date of birth and date of death • The location, date, and time of the service You may also wish to include a special quote.Inside
The inside of your order of service will contain many different things. You may wish to include: • The titles of the songs being played upon guests' arrival • An introduction by the person who is conducting the service • The wording to any hymns or songs • The wording to any readings or speeches, as well as the names of the individual speakers • Group prayers • Details about the closing music Featured Product: Funeral Order of Service - Celtic BorderFinal page
On the last page of your order of service, you may wish to include a photograph of the deceased. You might opt for a more fun photograph than you used on the front of your order of service, such as a family photograph. If you are wishing for charity donations, this is a good place to note this, too. Featured Product: Funeral Order of Service - Poppies & Butterflies If you have any questions about funeral stationery, you can contact our professional team by phone or email. They will be happy to help you.How Do You Write a Funeral Announcement
A photograph
A special photograph of your loved one will remind everyone of how amazing they were. It also makes your announcement cards such a beautiful memento. Featured Product: Funeral Announcement Cards - Ornate Border Some people choose to put a special old photo on the stationery, perhaps showing their loved one on their wedding day or another significant moment. Others may prefer to choose a recent photo that really captures their personality. It's your choice.Name of the deceased
Include the person's full name, as well as any nicknames that they had, e.g. Ernest 'Ernie' Jones. This is a great way to show their personality, and it means that everyone will feel familiar with the names used. If they were a married woman, you may also want to include their maiden name, too.The date of death
You might want to mention the date that they passed away. This is particularly important for friends that you haven't been in touch with recently, as they may not know as many details. Featured Product: Funeral Announcement Cards - Pink Peony Some people also choose to mention how they died, e.g. 'after a short illness', but this is completely up to you.The date of the funeral
Mention the date of the funeral. Include what day of the week it is, too, especially if it falls midweek.The location of the funeral
Write where the funeral venue is and how to get there, particularly if it is a remote location.Any extra details
Other things you may want to include are the location of the funeral reception, whether or not you are accepting flowers, and if you want donations sent to a particular charity. Featured Product: Funeral Announcement Cards - Single Candle You know your loved one best, so write whatever you think suits them and their personality.Some wording examples:
The Brown Family are sad to announce the passing of Mary Jane Brown on 6th June, 2020. A service will be held at St Mary's Church, Bridgnorth, on 20th June, 2020 at 2 o'clock. In loving memory of Mary Jane Brown. Beloved mother and grandmother. Forever in our hearts. Please join us at St Mary's Church, Bridgnorth, on 20th June, 2020 at 2 o'clock to celebrate her life. It is with our deepest sorrows that we inform you of the death of our beloved grandmother, Mary Jane Brown. A private family memorial service will be held on 20th June, 2020 at 2 o'clock, at St Mary's Church, Bridgnorth. We hope you have found this blog useful. Please get in touch if you need any help with your funeral stationery - we are always ready to give a helping hand.Ideas and Poems for Memorial Cards
Wording Memorial Cards
Many choose to add a meaningful phrase or quote to their memorial cards, either in tribute to them or to remind them of that person's life. Write a short sentence that captures an aspect of the deceased’s personality. Consider basing it on a treasured memory. Or you might prefer to add a message of love and remembrance:"Those that touch our lives stay in our hearts forever."
"You will never be forgotten."
"The memory of you will always be in our hearts."
"Your love will light our way, your memory will forever be with us."
You may want to commemorate a quote or words of wisdom the deceased once said, or choose a saying that they loved. Alternatively, here are some beautiful quotes you could use:"The song is ended, but the melody lingers on." - Irving Berlin
"There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart." - Mahatma Gandhi
“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” - Thomas Campbell
"Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened." - Dr. Suess
If the loved one was religious, you could also add a favourite scripture or piece of religious text.
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The backs of memorial cards usually show a poem. Selecting the verse for your card can be difficult due to the amount of choice. To help you pick, consider using poems that your loved one enjoyed so you can be reminded of them when you read it. And if you’re still having trouble deciding, here are a few to inspire you:Afterglow by Helen Lowrie Marshall
I'd like the memory of me
To be a happy one,
I'd like to leave an afterglow
Of smiles when life is done,
I'd like to leave an echo
Whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times and laughing times,
And bright and sunny days,
I'd like the tears of those who grieve
To dry before the sun
Of happy memories that I leave
When life is done.
Memories Build a Special Bridge by Emily Matthews
Our memories build a special bridge when loved ones have to part,
To help us feel we’re with them still, and soothe a grieving heart,
Our memories span the years we shared, preserving ties that bind,
They build a special bridge of love and bring us peace of mind.
Do Not Stand At My Grave and Weep by Mary Frye
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there,
I do not sleep,
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn’s rain,
When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the soft stars that shine at night,
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there,
I did not die.
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